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In this article, I’m going to show you how you can use your triggers to watch pornography or act out sexually – the same ones taking you down a pit of despair, the same one’s driving your compulsive behavior – as opportunities … And how you can use them  to drive positive behavior instead of feeding your sex and porn addiction. 

I want to teach you how to use your triggers ultimately to drive positive outcomes. Not only is it possible, but it’s mission critical. This is significant because your triggers are biologically hardwired. They are not going away. Did you get that? It’s so important to understand this concept. Your triggers are biologically hardwired – THEY ARE NOT GOING AWAY. So you must use them (0ver time they reduce in frequency and severity). 

Knowing this is significant because it gives you an instant opportunity to discharge the shame that so many of us have around our behaviors. We get triggered then we feel crappy, we feel terrible, we feel bad, we feel miserable, we get lower and then what does that do? That just makes us fail again. 

Let me define a trigger for you – this is when the body experiences an immediate, almost instantaneous, negative energy shift; often in response to something sexually stimulating or something bad happening. A trigger is the instantaneous shift in the body from positive to negative. the instantaneous shift in the body from positive to negative.

What if instead of those triggers driving your sex addiction and porn addiction, the same one’s driving your compulsion, … those same triggers actually triggered positive action.

Think about this for a second: what if we got millions of dollars and we developed an app that immediately alerted the user that they were slipping out of the present moment and speeding into Habitland – the place where you are automatically and instantaneously reacting to external stimuli. OMG – we’d be rich! It would change lives, but fortunately such an app is not needed – the alert system you seek is already inside you – it’s the same one’s driving you insane. It’s inside you!

Beep – it’s time to wake up. Why? Because what is always going to proceed YOU acting out sexually? What is always going to proceed you acting out in anger? What is always going to proceed your movement towards the cigarettes or pot or drugs or alcohol or eating, gambling or sex and porn?

YOUR TRIGGERS!!!!

This means you must change your relationship with them. Here’s what I want you to do: I want you to start to change your relationship with your triggers – think of your triggers as an alarm clock, as a wakeup call, as an opportunity, a gift. I want to change your perspective. Do this and completely change your life. Over the course of next few days pay very careful attention to your triggers. Play with them – use them to “hack” your addiction cycle. Use your triggers to say wait a minute … “I don’t have to take action on this trigger, in fact it’s telling me that I need something.” And get that need met in a healthy way.

For example: think about your trigger to check out an attractive woman, or a trigger to watch porn, or a trigger to get angry and defensive with your partner . . . you pick. Can you relate to any of these? And ask yourself, “what if I use that trigger to program myself, to reprogram my brain, to use that trigger to do something else?” What if that same trigger drove you to take positive action? Think about that for a second … 

Use your triggers as opportunities. Because they ain’t going away. I talk a lot about this powerful concept in my online course and my one on one coaching. It’s powerful and it changes lives. It changed mine. Now it’s your turn. See your triggers for the gift that they actually are and use them to embrace your power of choice.