Frequently Asked Questions
Everything You Need to Know About The Mindful Habit
Q1: Who is Craig Perra?
Craig Perra, J.D., C.P.C., is a Certified Professional Coach specializing in eliminating compulsive behavior fast. He coached men and couples at one of the top sex and porn addiction treatment centers in the United States before founding The Mindful Habit – a revolutionary behavior change modality that drives results fast for compulsive sexual behavior – porn addiction and sex addiction.
He now coaches clients in 14 countries all over the world and has worked with senior executives, professionals, entrepreneurs, lawyers, doctors, and hard working men who want – and expect – results fast.
He appeared on The Katie Couric Show with his wife Michelle and has been featured in national and international publications.
He’s a licensed attorney (in CT), a former business executive for billion dollar U.S. Companies, and serves in leadership roles locally in the Rocklin/Sacramento, CA area. He coaches his daughter’s soccer team, his son’s basketball team, involved in community theater, and speaks locally on Internet Safety to parents and educators. Craig also lectured at the Annual Conference for the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health.
Craig literally amassed thousands of hours of leadership, success, risk, and behavior change training at top tier educational institutions and Fortune 500 companies. He has a BA and a JD from The University of Connecticut.
“I’ve merged my personal experience with the science of habit, mindfulness, and ACTION to create revolutionary coaching programs that will connect you with the life you want fast.” Craig
Q2: What is The Mindful Habit Method?
The Mindful Habit Method is revolutionary. It’s a science based, action oriented, goal centric, and structured attack on your sex and porn addiction. It combines the science of the habit cycle, with mindfulness – one of the most powerful behavior change modalities on the planet – and ACTION. You learn real tools and techniques to help you embrace your power of choice fast.
This program is changing the lives of men all over the world. Clients have called The Mindful Habit “revolutionary” and “life changing.” Many clients have experienced success with this method after failing time and time again with traditional counseling and other modalities like 12 Steps.
It’s not counseling, therapy or based upon antiquated modalities like 12 Steps. It is a powerful behavior change modality that will help you embrace your powerful choice, reclaim your masculine energy, and change your life – free of compulsive behaviors.
Q3: Why are habits so important?
What’s one thing that you must master to break free of compulsive sexual behavior? Habits – you must master the habits that are running your life – both good and bad. You will not succeed without mastering the habit cycle.
We are creatures of habit. We need habits to survive. In fact we can’t function without them. You couldn’t even get out of bed in the morning if you had to consciously think of every biomechanical movement you had to make. Without habits we wouldn’t have amazing guitar solos, awesome dancing, people kicking ass in video games, successful athletes . . . great habits produce greatness. We know this.
We also know that bad habits produce mediocrity, malaise, under-achievement, poor productivity, and overall a shitty life. Habits rule our life and the fact is you, like I did, probably know very little about them.
Scientific fact – to break a habit you must make a habit. This means you must take action – you can not solely focus on not doing something. You must focus on what you want to do. You must focus on action.
The Mindful Habit embraces these core principles in a powerful and structured way to drive change fast.
Q4: Why is mindfulness so important?
Mindfulness is critical – it’s fundamental; it is one of the pillars upon which The Mindful Habit is based. It is the most effective behavior change modality period. It has changed my life and the lives of so many of my clients. Do it and it will help you cure your cravings, be less angry, and happier.
What is it? Mindfulness pioneer John Kabat-Zinn defined mindfulness as follows. Mindfulness is paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, without judgement (Kabat-Zinn, 1994, p. 4).
It’s being present, not living in the past, not automatically reacting to external stimuli like a sexual trigger. It’s being here and it’s being now – not a slave to your sexual and deprecating thoughts. Combined with the science of the habit cycle, you will learn how to increase your mindfulness in a powerful way fast.
Not only is mindfulness a critical tool in the fight against compulsive behaviors it has a slew of other incredible benefits. Mindfulness is not only associated with feeling less stressed, it’s also linked with decreased levels of the stress hormone cortisol, it protects your brain, makes you a better person – more compassionate, it helps you sleep better, and is key to winning against compulsive behavior.
Mindfulness is mission critical and a core component of The Mindful Habit.
Q5: Is this based on 12 Step programs?
No it’s not and for a very good reason. The effectiveness of 12 Step Programs is not very good and data regarding its efficacy for compulsive sexual behavior is virtually nonexistent. It certainly didn’t work for me and has failed a countless number of my one on one clients.
With 12 steps, a program virtually unchanged for the past 75 years, you admit that you are powerless over your addiction and surrender to a higher power. These parts really bothered me along with the daily declaration, of “Hi, my name is Craig and I’m a sex/porn addict.” It’s also entirely centered around the thing that you are trying to stop doing, instead of structurally driving healthy habits and thoughts – healthy actions. I later learned that these same things that bothered me are the same scientific reasons why the program isn’t as effective as it could be.
It’s the exact opposite of what you need. When I lost my $150k/yr executive job because of my compulsive sexual behavior, almost lost my wife, and was being a shitty father, the last thing I needed to hear was that I was powerless and I had to surrender. The Mindful Habit, instead, teaches you to embrace your power and you learn tools to transmute your powerful sexual energy – it demands that you never surrender. It’s a masculine program that rejects the disease based model of addiction. Instead, it empowers you in a powerful way to embrace your power of choice, drive change fast, and move past “recovery” to living.
According to an article in the New York Times, “[w]hen Alcoholics Anonymous and other 12-step programs are examined in controlled studies, . . . scientists find no proof that they are superior to any other intervention in reducing alcohol dependence or alcohol-related problems.”
Dr. Lance Dodes, the former director of Harvard’s substance abuse treatment unit at McLean Hospital, who in 2013 wrote a book called The Sober Truth: Debunking the Bad Science Behind 12-Step Programs and the Rehab Industry stated, “Alcoholics Anonymous [the program upon which all 12 step programs are based] was proclaimed the correct treatment for alcoholism over seventy-five years ago despite the absence of any scientific evidence of the approach’s efficacy . . . and we have been on the wrong path ever since.”
That does not mean that these programs aren’t helpful if you lack financial resources – 12 Step programs are free. And a handful of my own personal clients have supplemented their Mindful Habit training with a 12 Step program. Just remember to treat it as a buffet. Take the good, and leave behind the stuff that doesn’t work or that isn’t moving you forward fast.
Q6: What is the guarantee?
We are incredibly proud of our programs and are convinced that your life will experience incredible change. I am a strong believer in accountability and that applies to me as well – you are paying me for results and that’s what I deliver.
We offer a 100% Guarantee – FULL REFUND: If after three weeks (21 days) you do not believe that your life is on track to profoundly change then you receive 100% of your money back – this applies to one on one coaching as well.
Fact: The number of one on one clients that have asked for their money back in two years: 0.
You have a full 21 days to evaluate our programs, and if you don’t find it to be the most life-changing program you have ever undergone, just let us know and we will issue a 100% unconditional hassle-free money-back guarantee.
If you are unsatisfied for ANY reason, you will receive a courteous and prompt refund.
Q7: How long will it take me to complete the program?
I highly recommend you complete The Mindful Habit in 12 Weeks. Follow my instructions and this program will change your life fast.
Q8: Do you offer maintenance programs?
Heck yes. Maintenance is critical. To break a habit you must make a habit and since the cure for your affliction is the aggressive pursuit of a great life, I offer a number of powerful and affordable programs that will keep you on track in your pursuit of the great life you deserve. Whether it’s one on one or online, The Mindful Habit is designed to move you well beyond “recovery” to living.
Q9. Is there support for my partner?
Yes. Right now, however, we only offer one on one coaching on a very limited basis with Craig’s wife Michelle Perra, C.P.C.
Michelle Perra is a Certified Professional Life Coach. She’s appeared on Anderson Cooper and The Katie Couric Show has been featured in Bella Magazine. Her life is helping people connect with the life they know deep down inside is possible. Her personal story has touched millions and is living proof that a woman and couple can survive and thrive tough times and come out stronger and closer than ever.
Through her kind, compassionate and inspirational approach, Michelle empowers and motivates men, women, and couples to create the incredible life that they truly want to live.
“My life experience empowered me to find my voice, my happiness and my inner awesomeness.”