Partners hate porn, often not because of moral or religious issues although those beliefs factor in. They hate it because it's not bringing them closer to their partner - instead it's moving them farther away. The lying and getting caught cycle - over and over again - has such a negative impact on relationships. Be the person you want to be and stop lying. The debate of whether or not porn is an "addiction" will continue to rage on - but frankly it doesn't matter. It's clearly a compulsive habit, drives feelings of shame, and moves many away from love and connection.

The secrets and lies will destroy your relationship. Ask yourself, what do I keep this expression of my sexuality a secret? Is there shame surrounding it? Why? Answers to these questions and digging into the root cause of shame can produce positive results and help you better understand your sexuality and how you feel about it. Most of the guys that I work with one on one learned shame in childhood. Shame and secrets is a receipt for a miserable life.

Nielsen found 25% of working adults admit to looking at pornography on a computer at work. And 70 percent of all online pornography access occurs between 9 AM and 5 PM. Two of three HR professionals said they have found pornography on employees' computers. This is a sure way to get fired so don't. Most companies have an internet usage policy that provides for automatic termination for watching porn.

Porn is big business brothers and sisters and they are making money off the backs of hardworking men and women all over the world. All the free porn out there is intentional and part of a very sophisticated marketing strategy. The goal is to hook as many people as possible with free content - the same tactics used by Big Tobacco - to increase the pool of people willing to purchase it and purchase it they do. Porn is a multi billion dollar industry. Don't be a slave to big porn.

Thinking about porn is often the only way users have to achieve orgasm. This means the height of pleasure and connectedness with another human being is being corrupted by an industry that knows it's product is hurting couples - porn is listed as a contributing factor in 47% of all divorces. That is insanely high. Don't be a statistic.

Porn induced ED has been well documented. Italian urologists have proven that excessive porn use makes some men limp. This means that porn can be anti-evolutionary. Our sexual energy is incredibly powerful and this is a prime example of it. The good news is that in the overwhelming majority of cases it goes away when you stop watching it. "It starts with lower reactions to porn sites, then there is a general drop in libido and in the end it becomes impossible to get an erection," said Carlo Foresta, head of the Italian Society of Andrology and Sexual Medicine (SIAM).

Compulsive pornography use is wreaking havoc on relationships. Porn is cited as a contributing factor in 47% of divorces in the United States - the average divorce costs approximately $10,000. Personally, I almost lost my wife because of my compulsive sexual behavior - I didn't because I took serious action and so should you if you are struggling. I almost lost my wife because of my compulsive sexual behavior - I didn't because I took serious action. Porn was moving me away from strength, love and connection and towards loneliness, isolation, and weakness. If your porn use is impacting your partner - the one that should be closer to you than anyone else on the planet, you must take action.

Compulsive porn is a progressive condition, has been proven to cause erectile dysfunction, and for many of us, it moves us away from great sex and a deep love and connection - it did for me. I was completely desensitized. Researchers said that young men who indulge in "excessive consumption" of Internet porn gradually become immune to explicit images. Over time, this can lead to a loss of libido, impotence and a notion of sex that is totally divorced from real-life relations.

Porn took a serious toll on my life largely because of what I wasn't doing. I wan't connecting deeper with my wife and I wasn't taking care of my body and I wasn't moving my life forward. If this is you, I'm glad you are here considering getting some help. Don't let porn get in the way of a great life. Every minute spent watching porn could me a minute you use to create a great life. Look back over the course of the past three months and add up all the time you've spent watching porn and then think about what you could have accomplished.

Is porn robbing you of a very powerful human experience - orgasming during sex with a real person. It's very important in a healthy relationship to be connected during intercourse and drifting off to graphic porn images is NOT helping your relationship. In fact, it's hurting it. This pattern will move you away from your partner and she or he will definitely begin to notice the distance growing between you.

If you masturbate in public you are at risk of getting arrested. Men watching porn in public have been photographed and exposed via social media.

Your sexual energy is powerful. It started to form in you when you were in the womb and has continued to evolve ever since. Self help guru Napoleon Hill was writing about this concept since 1937 in his best selling book Think and Grow Rich (chapter 11). Cntl + click here to open a free copy of this book in a new window. You need to learn to transmute this sexual energy into creating the life you want. It's powerful, control it or it will control you.

This question is designed to help you figure out how badly porn is getting in the way of your life. "True" so this means it is and suggests porn IS getting in the way. Control it or it will control you. If porn is no longer a harmless hobby and is impacting your real life, think about the cumulative effect of 5, 10, or 20 years of you being late for life because of porn.

Hobbies can enhance your creativity, help you think more clearly and sharpen your focus, said Carol Kauffman, an assistant clinical professor at Harvard Medical School. “When you’re really engaged in a hobby you love, you lose your sense of time and enter what’s called a flow state, and that restores your mind and energy,” she said. In a flow state, you are completely submerged in an experience, requiring a high level of concentration. Research shows strong correlations between flow states and peak performance, said Ms. Kauffman. Porn does the exact opposite.

Heavy users of porn report that more and more graphic material is needed to create the same level of stimulation. Porn can morph your sexuality creating significant personal and relationship problems. Porn morphs our sexual tastes. It did for me in a big way. I was watching aggressive, almost abusive type pornography until I realized that this wasn't the man I wanted to be. It gets worse and worse. Trust me.

Shame serves no healthy purpose as far as emotions go and has no place in a healthy expression of your sexuality. If you are experiencing shame, you are carrying a heavy burden and I'm pretty confident that it's getting in the way of your progress. Shame is the fuel that drives the compulsion. Remember that.

This is an impact question to get you thinking about how porn has impacted other important things in your life. Heavy use causes people to isolate and disconnect. This is unhealthy on so many levels. Reflect on how it's getting in the way and then spend a minute staring in the mirror - then ask yourself - is this the man I want to be?

Don't fall down the rabbit hole of online pornography. It's a slippery slope and the internet has created incredible opportunities to ruin your life - don't! I believe it's also fueled by the porn industry's promotion of teen porn - much of this genre looks and feels like child porn but isn't because the actress is over 18. If these fantasies start to hard wire in your sexuality get help immediately. This is incredibly high risk behavior - it presents a risk to your liberty if you get arrested, your job, and your relationship. It will also get you on a lifetime sex offender registry list. Get help immediately. There is no "I didn't know she was under 18" defense for possession of child pornography. How do you know the girl is over 18? - this applies to cam girls as well. Sexualizing young girls is unhealthy, a recipe for a weak relationship, and can get you in serious trouble. This trouble includes but is not limited to getting fired, divorced, arrested, prosecuted, jail time and becoming a registered sex offender.