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In this episode of “Sex Addictions and Porn Afflictions,” Craig Perra, certified professional coach and Founder of the “Mindful Habit System to End Compulsive Behavior,” talks to Matt Dobschuetz, coach and host of Pornfree Radio, a weekly podcast for motivated Christian men who want to align their sexuality with their spiritual beliefs. Craig and Matt dig into the unique reasons behind porn addiction for Christian men as well as how to talk to your kids early on in a healthy, impactful way

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Hello friends. This is Craig Perra from, talking about Sex Afflictions and Porn Addiction.  I’m dedicated to helping you do two things; create a great life and create healthy sexuality.

This is not just for addicts, people in the throes of addiction, although a lot of you are in that space. It’s for men and women who want to elevate themselves, who want to operate on that higher plain, and you’ll read about someone through this discussion, who is operating on that higher plain.  A gentleman who has taken a similar path to mine and I absolutely love.

Let me introduce Matt Dobschuetz from I was on his podcast and people have been  calling me because of that.  

Matt: Thanks. Thanks, Craig. Yeah, we did take a similar path. We were both in corporate America.

Craig: Uh, uh. I’m having flashbacks.

Matt: And, we both left not totally by our own design.

Craig: Mine was exclusively not by my own design, for the record. They asked me to leave and security was present.

Matt: I bike commuted the day I went to work and I had to take an Uber home because I suddenly had a box and I had the bike.

Craig: Ahhh. Ahhh. I mean, that’s almost like a meme, like the guy who just got fired on his bike, carrying the box.

Matt: I know. It was hilarious. But, you know what? The day I was laid off and driven home, was the most beautiful day of my summer. It was 10:30 in the morning,  and the Uber drove me around the back side of the office. The sun was shining off the all glass building.  It was almost a spiritual thing.  Like, heaven’s gates opened I just was exiting my past. I never went in that building again. It was a beautiful scene.

I got home and I was alone.  I had to find my old Nokia Candy Bar phone because they took my smartphone when I left. But I started to put my life back together and moved on from there.

Craig: You’ve got a very popular podcast on I know it’s kicking ass on iTunes and hundreds of thousands of people are listening to your message on healthy sexuality and being a good Christian. Navigating this minefield of healthy sexuality in a hypersexualized society as a Christian is tricky to say the least.

I work with a lot of Christian men, so I’m so glad you’re here, Matt.

I want to first talk about you and that moment where you went into work that day and they said, “Hey, man. This is it.” You were under producing.

Tell us about what brought you to that place and the impact that your sexuality, or your expression of it, had on you.

Notice I like to use those words, (sexuality and expression), beyond the “addiction label”,  and the reason why, Matt, is because so many guys are out there asking, “Am I addicted?” and they’re filling out the questionnaires, answering questions and they’re researching. “No, I’m not. Yes, I am,” and they’re fighting with their partner back and forth.

Stop it! Instead ask, “is this healthy?” “Are you proud of your sexuality?”

So, just to clarify for you and everyone else, that’s why I’m using that language-those words.

Bring me back to that place for you, please, continue.

Matt: My layoff, or my exit, really was about me going on a different path. While I was still at my job, I started my podcast and creating content for guys who struggled.  I think that my company saw some of the stuff I was doing and recognized that my passion had shifted from my position at work to more of a manager or leader. I had worked in marketing there for ten years, and they were very kind and gave me a nice package.

The one thing I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is how my pornography addiction affected by career.   I think it undermined my confidence,  so I wasn’t good at advocating for myself. I was never a manager when I was in porn. I was never seen as a leader. I was definitely an underperformer when I was in the addiction.

Craig: I like how you’re talking about the impact, Matt, because, you know, people call and they want to share their story. I was exposed to pornography as a child.  I was raised in a home where sexuality was shamed. How often do we hear that?

Matt: Or not talked about.

Craig: Or not talked about, right.

Matt: Shame. Completely silent.

Craig: Completely silent, and I had to find my own way.  And I found that brought me down this dark path and there I was; completely consumed.

I self-identified as a porn addict.

And then my Addict self says, “So what?”

I say, “What do you mean, so what? I’m calling you. I’ve got a problem.”  

Addict Self Says, “So, look at the data. Billions of people are watching porn. Their lives aren’t crumbling.”

The struggle is real!

Matt, I want to know about the impact. What’s the impact?  Start first by tell me a little bit more about when you were in that place; And then your experience in working with Christian men.

Matt: Well, the first thing that really impacted me the most was I had a mistaken belief from childhood, that I was unlovable.   When porn came along I was a little eight-year-old guy, who saw something that was overwhelming and exciting to me.

Craig: Awesome.

Matt: The incredible energy that came from porn was awesomely numbing that sense of being not good enough and being unlovable.

I mean, as soon as I saw porn I knew it was something I wanted to see more of.      I was raised in a Christian home. I knew that there was an unhealthy piece to this. Maybe it was part of my moral core, but I knew there was something unhealthy about it. But, as I said, it wasn’t talked about in my house.

Craig: Stay on that for a second, Matt. It’s so important. You fall into the category of not talked about where I fell into the category where, it wasn’t talked about and when it came up it was clearly a dirty and disgusting thing and here’s my favorite, “Sex is dirty and disgusting and you save it for someone you love when you’re married.”

Matt: Right.

Craig: Think about that for a second.

Matt: My parents talked a lot about healthy sexuality. They modeled it. They were strong Christians. They really were open, but here’s the one conversation I remember. I’m at the dinner table and my dad, at the time, worked with mechanics. He sold tools to mechanics, and so he was going to Harley Davidson dealerships and kind of these rough places.

Craig: Yeah. That’s a tough crowd.

Matt: Pinups on the wall, that kind of stuff.

Craig: Men’s men.

Matt: Right. So, I don’t remember how it came up, but we were all home one night and began talking about how the Harley Davidson dealership, had some motorcycle magazines with topless women in it.   I think maybe, I had looked at one and my dad saw me and so, they were talking about it. And, what was interesting to me was when my Mom turned to my dad and she said,

“Well, you never would look at one of those magazines, would you?”

She was kind of shaming my dad. My dad is prone to be a little silent. He just got all quiet. So, the only message I got as a young boy was “well, this must be the most shameful thing in the world to look at one of these magazines”.  

That was the last conversation I ever had about it until about 25 – 30 years later, when I’m recording Porn Free Radio and my dad starts listening to it and contacted me and said,

“Hey, can we talk about some of the stuff you’re talking about?”

Craig: Whoa.

Matt: And not because he was struggling, he just never knew.

Craig: What a nice bonding time for you and your father. What was that conversation like?

Matt: Well, here’s the crazy thing. I had just recorded Episode 7, and it was called What My Dad Told Me About Pornography, and the answer was, “nothing”.

So, it kind of laid him out a little bit. He told me he listened to that episode, and then he said,

“When I was listening to the episode I started thinking about my dad.” I wasn’t even thinking that the dad in the story was me. I started thinking about what my dad told me? How did my dad miss me? What information did I not get growing up?”

So, he realized he was just like me. He was like a boy wanting dad to speak to this area of his life, and he had the same gap that I had. So, it actually was a very powerful connection when he finally listened to that episode.

Craig:  I’m going take a moment and say:  Fathers, if you do not talk to your kids about this issue you are affirmatively fucking them up. I am sorry to use that blunt language, and it’s hard- yes! It is not a conversation you’re prepared for, so in your life when you’ve got to have conversations that you’re not prepared for, what do you do? You prepare! You reach out to Matt. You go on my website. You research how you talk to your kids about this in a healthy way that isn’t going to leave them 20 years down the road, paying us to help them, while having this conversation.

Craig: That is so beautiful. Thank you, Matt. What a story. What a story.

Matt: It has been good. I mean, literally in the last couple of years there’s been a lot more conversation about what happened to me, what the experience was.   My dad said to me, “I was in such a place of unknowing. I didn’t know how to talk to you about stuff. I didn’t know.”

He was a campus pastor when I was really young, and this is in the 1970’s, and a guy came to him and said he was struggling with porn. My dad kind of knew about magazines, but he didn’t know that someone could be addicted and he didn’t know how to help him. He said it wasn’t until he heard my podcast that he realized, “Oh my gosh, Matt has the same thing that that guy in 1975 had.

Like, he realized he just didn’t know.  He didn’t know about it so he didn’t know how to help me, even if he did know about my struggles. Even when he found out about it when I was in recovery he didn’t know how to speak to me.

Craig: So this curse that you bore for so many years and had such an impact, you turned into a blessing. You turned it into a gift that you’re sharing with other people. Tell me about that realization when you were at rock bottom and how you found yourself at this place here, touching so many people’s lives.

Matt: Well, I had a couple rock bottom experiences. One of the first ones was when my wife of just under two years found me masturbating and looking at porn. She had no idea that I had brought that into the marriage. She thought it was something in the past that maybe I kind of dabbled with. She had no idea it was a regular thing I was hiding and lying about.  So, that was one night that was kind of a rock bottom experience.

I had another one, too. The first time, after about 30 days, after a tearful confession, my wife went out of town and I tried to fill up my night with busyness and it got to about midnight and I thought about an old modem that I had in the basement that was broken. My wife took our family modem with her on this trip, but I thought about the old broken one. So, I went downstairs and obsessively pieced together this old modem and within about 90 minutes, 2 hours …

Craig: You’re on.

Matt: It connects to the internet, and it was so scary. When I heard it handshake and connect I jumped back and I was at the threshold of my office, and I’m looking in and I remember the Yahoo browser popped up. This was the old days. Yahoo pops up and the cursor is blinking in the search box, and I could hear my heart beating. It was like, baboom, baboom, baboom, all those lies come to me, you know, like:

“You already screwed up. You told your wife you wouldn’t be on the internet. Just go for it. She’s gone. She’s not going to be back. She’s in San Francisco. She’s not going to be back for three days. Go, have a party.”

But, I was so scared and I had this moment of insanity almost. I thought for a second if I could get into the computer, rip out the modem and with a hammer or something and break it I could be free that night. And, so that’s what I did. I ran in the kitchen and I grabbed a hammer. I ran back to the thing. I didn’t even unplug the computer. I ripped open the computer. This was the old style where it was plugged in. Ripped out the card. I could have electrocuted myself. I pull this thing out. I start beating the shit out of it, you know. Man, that thing is hard to break, too. It’s hard plastic. It’s probably in a landfill now somewhere.

So, I thought for a second, “Wow! Freedom! Victory! I did it!”,  and then I had what could be considered, either a panic attack, or an encounter with darkness.

All of the sudden I felt like there was an evil presence in my house. I turned on every light. I went from room to room and didn’t feel safe in any of them. I called my wife. She prayed for me on the phone and she said, “If you don’t feel safe you just need to go to your sister’s house and just sleep on the couch.”

I hung up the phone with her. I had tears in my eyes and I didn’t feel safe, so I ran out of the apartment at 4:00 in the morning, and I rang my sister and brother-in-law’s doorbell. They’re a great kind of people. They didn’t ask questions. I just laid on their couch and slept.

My brother-in-law went back with me the next night and all the lights were still on. Everything was fine. I never had an experience like that again.

Craig: What was it? What was that? I constantly need to remind myself that some people have never, ever, ever communicated these feelings and thoughts to anyone, and I know so many people have been in that place, feeling that dark presence. What does that mean to you?

Matt: Here’s what it was. Something big was at stake . It wasn’t just a little childhood dalliance. This was at my core, and when I destroyed the modem that night, it wasn’t my only battle or my only victory.   

When I destroyed that modem, whatever was inside me, just exploded. There are Christian men out there who speak into a battle language and I’m not comfortable with doing that. But that night, I was in the middle of a battle.

Craig: Yeah.

Matt: I was in a fight with something that really had a hold of me and it was still early. It was 30 days in. I had just been crying to my wife and apologizing saying, “I’ll never do this again,” and there I am standing at the doorway thinking “I’m going to do it again”, and then when I said no to it, it was like everything in me, everything in my apartment just kind of collapsed.

So that’s when I got serious. I went to a recovery group right after that. I realized I couldn’t do this on my own, because I didn’t know anybody like me at the time. I didn’t know anybody who had rebuilt a computer to get on the internet.

Craig: What a story.

Matt. My wife and I  were very open. We told people in our church group and the other guys all looked at me like, “What are you talking about? Even if I did do that I wouldn’t talk about it.” You know, so it was like I felt so alone.

So, finally I went to this recovery group and it wasn’t the greatest recovery group, but people were honest there and the leader had a lot of empathy and everything started to click.  

I knew that my addiction was bigger than just a little fascination, a little something about porn. It was about feeling unlovable. It was about this core wound from childhood that I carried with me. It was about the silence that was in my family and how my dad didn’t speak into my life. It was all those things together.

Craig: I love what you said about your not being comfortable with speaking the battle language. There are certainly points in our lives where there is a battle, and we are fighting – sometimes literally.  And in my experience, there were times that I felt I was fighting for my life, because I did try to kill myself at one of my lower moments.

The long-term challenge in using that language, I found is, that I would start giving it too much power. The more you demonize and pedestalize the battle and fight and war, the more power you give it. Tell me your discomfort with that language.

Matt: Well, I know exactly why I’m uncomfortable with it. Here it is: If we make porn the enemy, the battle, then what about our needs and why we turn to it? I think a lot of porn use is tied to us trying to take care of ourselves. It’s unhealthy self care.

We’re trying to make ourselves feel better. We’re trying to make ourselves not feel pain. We’re trying to feel good enough. What about those real needs, those hurts, those wounds, those places where you need self care?

You mention that I work with Christian guys. Yes I do.  But one of the main things I work with all guys to see, is that their needs are important, that they need good self care.  If you just demonize porn and simply make it the enemy and forget to investigate why you need it, your battle will be long and you won’t be able to feel good about yourself.   

Then what does the guy think? “When I feel sad, when I feel any uncomfortable feelings, well those must be bad because they always lead me to porn, so I don’t want to feel.”

Craig: Matt, I love you. I am so enthralled with your message. I think there are a number of flaws, particularly in the Christian community, for dealing with this problem. It’s demonized.

Matt is my number one guy, my number one referral source for people who call me and say, “Hey, I’m looking for a Christian approach, Craig. I like your style. I like your action-oriented goal centric habits, mindfulness.” For those of you who have been listening, I’m a little cocky maybe. Some have accused me of that before.

Matt: No. No.

Craig: Yeah, yeah. I think it was my wife actually. But, I need you to know that Matt is the bomb, the absolute bomb because what he just said is freakin’ brilliant.

You know one of the questions I ask my guys, right? One of the curveball questions that I like to ask people is, “Stop. Is it so bad? Tell me all the good parts. Tell me all the positive attributes of pornography,” or even their compulsive sexual behavior, you know, prostitutes, massage parlors.

The response:  “Wait, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, what are you talking about, Craig? That’s the most ridiculous question I’ve ever heard. How dare you?” Sometimes there’s a sense of umbrage. I say, “Tell me. You do it every day. Why do you do it?”

Response:  “Well, it helps me escape. Sometimes I feel like I need to numb. Sometimes it feels like a warm security blanket when I’m having problems.”

My response to them:  “Oh, so you’re using it to deal with problems.”

Matt: I need touch. I need touch.

Craig: You need touch.

Matt: I have a need for touch.

Craig: Connection. And, then that list goes on.

What starts with, “Are you crazy? That’s the dumbest question ever,” they then come up with this list of why, and I say, “Well, there’s your list of unmet needs because all of your negative behavior is a function of your unmet needs. Get those needs met and you’re going to be just fine.”

Matt: Yeah, and when the Christian guy goes into battle he’s battling with his needs.

Craig: Right.

Matt: That’s where I lose the metaphor right there, and I try to never say it. Every once in awhile you can’t help but use it because it’s just every man’s battle. Everyone says it.

Craig: Yeah.

Matt: When I catch myself doing it I cringe.

Craig: I know. And, there’s a place for it. Like you said, sometimes when you’re motivating it’s not fighting not to do something. If there’s a fight in me, it’s to live a great life. It’s to be the best version of myself.

So, when did you say, “This is it, I’m putting all my eggs in this basket?” Because that is a very, very scary time. You say to yourself, “You know what?”

I remember it for me-when I stopped applying for jobs, because I got fired. I got fired like you did six years ago. I can’t practice law in California. Nobody’s calling me back. I couldn’t even get a paralegal job when I was assistant to the General Counsel for a $3 billion company, but I’m moving in this direction. I’m feeling a connection. I was helping people in ways that I was able to impact them, and I’m started to feel this excitement – that this was my calling, and I was sick and tired of keeping those secrets.

I’m just going to tell everybody because no more. I’m going to start talking about it, and when I made that decision to stop applying for jobs it was one of the scariest jumps that I’d ever taken in my life. Do you have a moment like that?

Matt: I was kind of thinking about doing this fulltime and, so, I got this package and I was kind of strategizing with my wife: going to a couple of friends in my life, and then I sat down with this one guy. He’s an entrepreneur, he’s super positive, and he asked me this question. “Did they give you a package,” and he kinda said it in a somber way.

And, I said, “Yeah,” and then he said, “So, they’re funding your startup. “This is the opportunity.” I came home and told my wife and said,  “You know.  Let’s do this. I mean, we’ve got a nice runway here. Let’s see if we can take off.” And, well, that’s kind of how it started.

Craig: What an amazing story.

Matt: It’s funny. I was working with one of my early coaching clients. He worked with me like three months, and he did a great job. He really had some movement, and the last session I met with him he said, “You know what? I’m glad you got fired.  Because there’s no way you’d be able to meet with me at 4:00 in the afternoon to work with me for an hour a week if you hadn’t.  I needed help and I’m glad you’re here.”

Craig: I’m glad too. I feel truly blessed, Matt, that our lives have intersected and we’ve both taken a similar path and I have someone that I can talk to who’s been there and can share some of the more challenging parts of this journey.  It’s so nice to have a friend.

Tell me what you’re doing now. How can guys get in touch with you? Tell me about your online course. You’ve got a program. I want as many people to hear this as possible.  You guys who know me, know how like selfish I am.  “Come to me, come to me!” But I’ve got to tell you there’s one person that I recommend on the Christian side and that’s Matt Dobschuetz and Porn Free Radio.

It doesn’t mean there aren’t other great people out there doing this work, but the way he has merged the science, the way he has merged the behavior, just what you heard about that battle stuff. All you fighters out there, maybe there’s an important place to think of a different perspective. Let’s hear it, man.

Matt: One thing that I identified right away, and I’m sure you’ve seen this too is, guys have an intention to go porn free. They kind of have an idea that it’s a problem, but it doesn’t go any further than an intention. They don’t have a plan.

So, one of the first things I did was create a short course called Your Porn Free Playbook that helps guys do the essential things that they need in order to build a strong recovery plan that’s focused on them. You know, because everyone gets hooked on porn for different reasons. Everyone goes to different things, has different weak points in their life.

So, a plan that is a one-size-fits-all is not going to fit at all. It’s not going to work, but if you go through this course it’s just, it’s the same thing I do with my paid coaching clients. We go through and identify:

Why are they leaving porn?

What’s the selfish reason that they have, not because of their wife, not because of their job, not because of their religion, but what do they get out of being porn free?

What’s the thing that porn is robbing them of; their confidence, their joy? What’s missing. What do they get in recovery?

I help them define a why. I help them define active commitments. I help them identify some of those triggers and obstacles; The mistaken beliefs, like being unlovable, and then I walk them through how to connect with other people; that your plan is activated by people, not just a coach, not just your wife, but other men, and how you build that network.

You know, one of the most exciting things I’ve done this year,  is I went from just doing one-on-one coaching to doing some group coaching, and the coolest thing to see is the relationships between the men.

Craig: Ah. I know. Doesn’t it feel so good?

Matt: They look at us. I’m going to tell you a story. This is a funny little anecdote from the early days of AA. In the early days of AA they use to do intervention calls.  A couple of these guys in recovery, alcoholics, would go reach out to a guy who hadn’t gotten sober yet. So, one of these guys who had been sober for years, maybe ten years, takes a guy who has been sober for ten days and they go to a drunk’s house to kind of, you know, do an intervention.

So, the guy who has been sober ten years says, “Well, I did this. I did that. I did this, and I’ve gone ten years sober and I haven’t had a drink and blah, blah, blah,” and then the guy who’s ten days sober tells his story. “Well, you know, a week and a half ago my wife caught me with this and I did this and then I went to a meeting and by the grace of God I’m here ten days sober.”

The drunk turns to the guy who’s been ten days sober and said, “How did you do it?” The guy who’s been ten years sober, says, “that’s so unrealistic for me to even think about right now, but this guy was drunk a week and a half ago”.

Craig: Right. That’s my people. I can talk to him. I want to know what he has to say.

Matt: So, here’s the thing. When a Craig Perra gets on the line with you, when a Matt Dobschuetz gets on the podcast, guys love what we’re saying. They agree with us. They relate to us. They empathize with us.

But, when they connect with some other guys who are in the process, not quite so far down the road of sobriety and, you know, there’s just amazing things that happen.

You know, when they see a guy get to six months, they’re like, “Oh, six months. That’s something I can shoot for. That’s something I can wrap my head around.”

Dude, I’m coming up on six years next month. That’s too much for people to wrap their head around when they’re not getting three days, when they’re not getting a week.

Craig: Right.

Matt: So, when you get guys together and they’re all on the same page, they’re speaking the same language, rowing in the same direction, boom, that’s when the magic happens.

Craig: The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is connection, and I’m with you. I love seeing the dynamic between my men on the group calls. Matt, how do people get in touch with you and where do they find you?

Matt: Pornfreeradio is my central place., that’s the podcast. Coming up on episode 100, launched January 2.  I mean, gosh, if you want hours and hours and hours of this kind of talk it’s all there including,  five episodes with the man, the myth, the legend, Craig Perra. I don’t know how you got into five episodes. Talk about not sharing a platform. How did that happen?

Craig: I know!

Matt: But you got on five episodes. All of them were fun. That’s the first place. If you want to find me Porn Free Radio is the place to start.

It’s on iTunes. It’s on Google Play. It’s on all the places where you can listen to podcasts. And, from there, you know, gets to my course and that’s just an awesome thing to do when you want to go to that next level and create a plan.

And, a lot of my guys have connection. A lot of my guys are in 12-step groups or they’re in church groups, but they don’t have any structure. These groups meet, not so much the 12-step groups, but the church groups, they meet.

They want to be porn free, but they just show up and basically report how they acted out with porn every week. There’s no structure. So, one of the things I do with my planning is I help guys get the structure, so if they have an accountability partner they can make the relationship much more meaningful and actually hold each other accountable.

Craig: That is awesome, and this course that Matt created is awesome. From one course creator to another I know it’s helping people. I know it’s changing their lives. What I’m going to do, folks, is on my website,,

I upload all the podcasts to a blog and then beneath that I have some notes and then beneath that is the transcript.

In those notes I’m going to put some links to these resources so you can access them so you have another option that’s going to help you become the best person that you can be because I don’t care if you’ve been done for three days, three months, three years, this isn’t about not doing something. This is about you becoming the best version of yourself.

Sex and porn is the symptom. It’s a mask. It is a cover. It is a salve for your wound which is another place I’m in precise agreement is that you are unlovable. There’s a part of you that isn’t good enough and that simply isn’t true.

Matt: I had a client about two months ago say almost the same thing. He said, Matt, “This is the salve. I learned early on that this made me feel better, so I just rubbed it on.” That’s what he learned growing up. Pain comes up, negative emotions. It’s the salve.

Craig: Numb, cope and escape. Numb, cope and escape. Well, we have got to even that. I want to have you back soon Matt. Thank you so much for being part of my life, for being there for me when I needed to talk and for doing what you do.

Matt: Well, thank you, Craig. Love you. Love your guys. If it was a battle, we’re brothers in the battle.

Craig: We are brothers in the battle. That’s for sure. Keep up the good fight my friend, and thank you so much everybody. I’ll catch you next time. This is Craig Perra with Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions.

Check me out on iTunes, Google Play. Subscribe to my podcast and leave a review too.

The podcast has changed a lot!  I was reading some of my reviews from when I had just started and some guys were a little rough on me, and I think the podcast has gotten a lot better because I’ve got some great people training me and helping me blow this up.

So, thank you everybody.  Catch you on the flipside. Bye-bye

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Change Your Definition of Relapse

In this episode of "Sex Addictions and Porn Afflictions," Craig Perra, certified professional coach and Founder of the "Mindful Habit to End Compulsive Behavior," teaches us that personal infrastructure is the love for our self put into action. Are you prioritizing...

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Sex Addict and Partner: Emotional & Physical Safety

In this episode of "Sex Addictions and Porn Afflictions,"Craig Perra, certified professional coach and Founder of the "Mindful Habit to End Compulsive Behavior," talks about how addiction can manifest itself into your relationships, especially romantic ones. In order...

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The Behavior Is Always the System

In this episode of "Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions," Craig Perra, certified professional coach and Founder of the "Mindful Habit to End Compulsive Behavior," talks about the push back he encountered when trying to get sober. Change is not scary; change is...

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Getting Off The Couch w/ Life Coach George Morning!

In this episode of "Sex Addictions and Porn Afflictions," Craig Perra, certified professional coach and Founder of the "Mindful Habit to End Compulsive Behavior," speaks candidly with friend and life coach George Morning about their struggles with addiction. They...

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